Seeking for new shores - Leaving the comfort zone

How to sucessully move to a another place and establish a new social environment - Introduction 

 

Hey there, how are you? Do you want to drink coffee with me and tell me something about you?

No? Ok this is not really surprising, since we don't know each other and probably live in complete different places. But would you agree if you would already know me? What if I would be a longtime friend? Probably yes, if you have time within your tight schedule for the day we could go to the coffee shop next door and share the latest rumors about Tom and Kim. So why are you acting so different in the same situation? Because we are used to and we try to maximize the profit for the time we spend. In the moment a stranger is asking, you will automatically check if it's worth it to talk to this person and spend time with him or her. If you are single you will probably tempt to be more open for such occasions, if your opposite is attractive. In most of the other case you will not if it's a stranger. In the case of a friend you want to spend time with him or her to maintain and improve your relationship - so it's also going to contribute to your well-being.

But why am I telling you this?

Because this is the situation you will face as soon as you leave your hometown and move to another place. Everyone there will be a stranger and you will be a stranger for everyone! Even if your old friendly aunt Amy lives there, she will only be one of thousands of persons living there and probably not having many interests in common with you. This can also apply to a friend or cousin you know there. In addition to that, it's very unlikely that unknown people will invite you to their friends or home, unless you are very attractive and they have their own plans in mind. But this is something different and should not be discussed here.

So is it then possible to become happy at the new place and is it worth it?

Well absolutely! But you also need to know that this will imply hard work and at the end is up to you and the decisions you make and a bit of luck. The first and most important thing you need to know before you pack your bags is that you are right now, while packing your stuff, leaving your comfort zone. You are about to leave the place you have been since a long time may since you have been born. Think about it! It's a huge change and a major decision for your future life and this understanding is fundamental no matter what the reasons for this step are. Those can be endless, better chances to find a job, studying abroad, a great internship or just the curiosity to discover new ways of living in a sunny state. The situation will be always the same but as you will learn in my further posts the circumstances will be a bit different for each depending on what you will do there. Despite this will be hard in the beginning you get a chance to learn more about the world out there, about other people and the most important about yourself. This is the reason why it's definitly worth it to face the challenge! I'll try to help you with this by writing about different aspects and strategies that might help you.